Sunday 12 April 2015

How To Deal With Failure: A Guide


Every one fails and makes mistakes once in a while. I can attest to this, as I’ve failed many times at various things. My grades aren’t always the best; I lost my first kickboxing fight. It’s human nature to make mistakes. (pic:http://www.bitsofwisdom.org/2012/11/15/failure-6/)

But as a society we’re on two ends of the extreme. On the one end is school. If you make mistakes on tests, you’re immediately labeled as a failure. Not only is this wrong, it also negatively influences the mindset of students.  
On the other end is the modern day wannabe philosopher. He or she says that failure is very important and nothing to be worried about. The problem with this school of thought is that people don’t try and fix their mistakes. “Every one is perfect” is a statement that stunts personal growth in people who misunderstand its meaning. The desire for self-improvement is weakened and people start viewing mistakes as good. Therefor, they don’t set precautions in place to avoid failure. Ideally, you should always have a back up for whatever you’re doing.
Backing up the data on your computer, having some extra food at home, having a back up cell phone etc. these are examples for simple precautions that you can take in order to avoid mistakes.

While mistakes are crucial for learning and development, they don’t have to be yours. As humans we poses the skill to learn from others. Why make a certain mistake if you could just read a book and simulate the failure so that you don’t have to live with the consequences in real life? That’s partly why I launched my book club, so that my readers can learn from others without having to go through the same hardship and struggle.

But as I mentioned earlier, failure is something we must all go through. What separates the successful from the unsuccessful is not the rate of failure; it’s the way in which they come back from it.
Successful people learn from their mistakes and adapt. Also, they use it as an opportunity to harden their mental stability and outlook on life. Unsuccessful people make the same mistakes over and over again and let the failure shatter their self-confidence.
You must also be able to quit at the right time. In the words of Tai Lopez, “A failure is an experiment done too long.” Know when the life experiment you’ve been running isn’t working out for you. Have the courage to quit wisely.

Failure is a double-edged sword. To make failure an asset, you must learn from your mistakes as well as that of others. Know when to quit and never make the same mistake again.
If you don’t do this, failure will turn into a ubiquitous theme in your life and it will drag you down.



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